I’ve been thinking about all of the things in my life that don’t work optimally, which I know about. My approaches to them so far, have been varied. They often have an irrational, emotional component. I, for example, feel that someone is doing something that I find disagreeable. Directly, there is a first response. Often it comes in the form of trying to talk the person into behaving differently. Or I make a decision in anger, which is something that usually doesn’t turn out well. Sometimes the decision is the right one, but since the wrong emotions are behind it, it still turns out badly. Maybe it’s that other people can sense our motivations. Or it’s simply because when a discussion follows upon the decision, I go into the discussion with anger. Maybe it’s a combination of both.
The point though, is that I could simply look at the situation, see my options and choose the overarching one that seems best. Then I can adjust the details. I don’t try to change reality or force anything. I just simply look at what’s in front of me and go with that.
So, why don’t I? Because I’m unable to stay focused and neutral in front of the situations that I’m facing. Therefore, I end up with mindless reactions, fuelled by the emotions I happen to feel at the moment.
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